It is world known that some men have problems in fulfilling or understanding their roles and responsibility as husbands. My grandfather was a carpenter, and had 8 kids including my mom who is the eldest among the seven children. My grandpa was alcoholic and used to beat my grandma because he couldn't fulfill all his children's needs. My mom started to work at a very early age for the family. This lack of responsibility or understanding the role as a husband my grandpa struggled and let the family struggle.
Often women complain that men hardly can take care of the household chores and take care of kids. John Gottman shares that "the fundamental difference between husbands who accept influence and those who don't is that the former have learned that often in life you need to yield in order to win".
Although there are a lot of things for a women it takes a very small amount of time to do or gets annoyed from their husbands what they do. Example, When my husband he comes home from college/work, he would not put his phone on charge and take my phone and watch sports updates/ Facebook or watch news without changing his clothes. Once he enters the room he would some day not be bothered to ask about my day and about my son. Even If I got angry and cried about things that annoys me from him, he would not give heed.
Gottman says that "More than 80 percent of the time, it's the wife who brings up sticky marital issues, while the husband tries to avoid discussing them. This isn't a symptom of a troubled marriage- It's true in most happy marriage as well.
I know that I am not a perfect wife in many different ways, through marriage relationship I have yield to learn to humble myself and not to bring pride in our relationship. If my husband ignores me when I yell at him it is not that I don't love him or he doesn't love me and is not listening to me. But marriage is all about forgiving each other, having patience and learning from each other as life goes by.
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